Baby shower "situation" please help!?

At most places where you can register, like Babies R Us and Target, you can put gift cards on there as well. Just let the people organizing your shower know this. I've been to showers at work where everyone puts in some money, and they go and buy one big gift card with it. I wouldn't feel bad with putting what you would really need on the registry, people will do what they are comfortable with. Or let them throw you a diaper shower. Whether you are doing disposable or cloth, that's something you will need a lot of, and everyone can bring some in different sizes.